Do I have to attend a wedding in which boyfriend is in the bridal party
I am making a difficult decision on whether or not to attend a wedding. My boyfriend is in the wedding party and has RSVPd for us, however as the date approaches I find myself not wanting to attend. The wedding is late on a Friday afternoon and about an hours drive away. My boyfriend will be there already from Thursday's rehearsal dinner, one that I cannot attend due to commitments in my graduate school program. Unforseen circumstances have left me with no vacation days left, and DC traffic on a Friday afternoon heading out of the city is going to require me to take unpaid leave to attend the wedding of someone that I have met once. Is it ok not to attend? This is giving me a migraine and stressing me out!
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Is this a casual boyfriend, is it a formal wedding and when is the wedding?
If this is a relationship you think might blossom into something serious you may want to make the effort since the people getting married must be close to your boyfriend. If the wedding is months away, it's probably okay to back out but if you've already sent in your response it could be a little late and cause your boyfriend some embarrassment. The couple may have already included you in their guest count for the caterer and may be paying for your meal. You should definitely be speaking to the boyfriend about how you're feeling and about the details since it's hard for us to give you the best advice without knowing a lot more of the particulars. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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May 31, 2008, 4:15 PM
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Yes, I agree and even with all of the particulars, this is something that only you can decide. It isn't polite to agree to attend and then not unless there is an excellent reason. The excellent reason is not easily definable. This is where common courtesy comes into play.
I agree that it is best to speak to your boyfriend about this. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Jun 2, 2008, 10:47 AM
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This isn't typically like me- I just recently missed a lot of work and school with an unexpected illness. The wedding is at 4:30 PM on a Friday out of town. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years.
Thanks for the advice
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Jun 2, 2008, 2:08 PM
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I'm so sorry about your illness and hope you are well now. Talk to your boyfriend about this. He knows the couple and their plans. It may be that it won't be a huge problem for the couple if you cancel at the last moment. So, stop feeling guilty and talk to him. I'm giving you permission. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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