Do we have to invite the groomsman's mom and step-father to the wedding?
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My fiance and I are having a difficult time doing the guest list. He does not get along with a guy friend of mine whom he has met twice... and has allready made up with, and told him that he was invited to the wedding. Randomly he will bring it up and say "this guy just cannot come to the wedding". I feel bad because we have allready told him we are inviting him, and he's a good friend of mine.
On the other hand, the person I do not want to invite is a bit more complicated. He is the step-father of one of our groomsmen. My fiance and this guy have been friends since they were little, so my fiance believes it necessary to invite the groomsman's mother. I have little issue with that except she is married to a man who has been exceptionally rude to my own mother. He is NOT a friend of the family, he has NEVER made an effort to apologize, and it makes me sick to my stomache to think that my parents would have to pay for this man to eat and drink at our reception. Let alone the fact that neither my mother, father, nor myself would like to see him ever again, especially on the day of the wedding.
The groomsman recently asked my fiance in front of me if his mother and step-father would be invited to the wedding... to which my fiance responded quickly, before I could say anything, "yes, of course they will".
What can I do? Obviously these are two seperate issues, but I don't feel right about inviting my friend if I am going to put my foot down about a groomsman's step-father. I also need to know, in this situation, is it ever okay to invite someone without her husband? Even if we explicitly do not get along?
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Re: Do we have to invite the groomsman's mom and step-father to the wedding?
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Dear June,
Thank you for the compliment.
We always invite the significant others to our events. And, it isn't necessary to invite the parents of our attendants. Although we should never disinvite, it may be best for your fiance to apologize to his groomsman about inviting his mother without speaking to you first. He could simply say that he misspoke and didn't know what the guest count was.
It isn't fair to your mother to invite someone who has been rude to her.
Do we have to invite the groomsman's mom and step-father to the wedding?
