So I'm in a bit of a quandry. My boyfriend and I have decided to "elope" for various reasons. I say elope in quotes because our respective parents already know about it and are ok with it. In fact, its due to my family that this sort of wedding (or lack there of) is occuring. However no one else knows. None of our friends and none of the extended families. Meanwhile, two good friends of ours are getting married and we have known about this for months. It just so happens that the best date for us to elope is only about 2 weeks before our friends wedding. I feel somehow like we should be telling these friends just so they know we aren't trying to steal attention or something (not that they are the sort of people that would jump to that conclusion), given that we have some overlap in friends. Its not like we are creating a wedding-travel burden for our mutual friends since there isn't any ceremony/party on our part, and its also not as if they are our closest friends either (if we were going to tell anyone, they wouldn't be at the very top of the list or anything).
I had come to the conclusion that there isn't really any reason to tell them before everyone else finds out/gets announcements, but I got their official wedding invitation in the mail today, and I just can't help but have this nagging feeling that I should be telling them.
Any advice would be appreciated
Thanks.
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
May 6, 2008, 3:07 PM
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Re: [geks] Eloping right before a friends 'real' wedding
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Dear Geks,
Normally you would be sending out announcements directly after your wedding. But, there is no reason to tell them right now. They have their own wedding to plan. You can inform them later. You could simply verbally tell them about it. In fact, this method is fine for everyone you wish to inform.
Please be careful with your planning. When you elope, you will then be married. It wouldn't be proper to host another wedding with friends and family. So, thoughtfully consider what type of ceremony you choose.
Eloping right before a friends 'real' wedding
