We are having an engagement party and I am working on the guest list. I have a close friend that I am inviting and her family is close to my family (and has been for over 30 years). Problem is, her family does not ever dress up and our party is going to be cocktail attire. I do not want them to show up wearing blue jeans and t-shirts as they always do. They are also raising their niece who is 8 years old (daughter of my friend's brother) and they take her everywhere - we are not inviting any children. My fiance is afraid they will show up dressed inappropriately and with the child. We also feel that we would have to invite the brother since we have known him forever, but he has a tendency to bring his trashy girlfriend everywhere. How do I handle this since their daughter is invited????? Should I just deal with it and invite them so not to hurt feelings?
Etiquette Now
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May 28, 2004, 7:44 PM
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Re: [kismetpixie] Engagement Party Dilemma
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Dear Dilemma,
Basically, an engagement party is an event to "come out of the closet" about your future wedding plans to friends and family. You are not obligated to invite anyone you do not wish to attend. Unfortunately, because you have a relationship with these people, you will have to weigh your wishes against possible hurt feelings. However, you could simply state that you wish to keep your party small and intimate and must only invite your close friend and look forward to seeing the rest of her family soon.
Engagement Party Dilemma
