I'm in my friend's wedding party. About a month ago the best man/maid of honor decided to start planning a party for them. In an initial email discussing this party, they hinted that the wedding party should "help in any way possible". I figure it's just the wedding party going to this gathering (bride's side meets groom's side) and they might want us to bring something for food...no big deal.
We recently received an email (with excel doc) detailing the costs of this party. Long story short, although they mention just "contribute what you can", it's listed as $125per person (wedding party foots the bill). 100 invitations went out.
Is this proper wedding etiquette? It's not so much the cost as it is that it just seems rude. And yet nothing can be voiced about this...since then I would look like the jerk.
Also, I fully anticipate there will be a shower/bachelor/and bachelorette party, so it's not as if this is in lieu of one of those parties.
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Re: [dennita] Engagment Party - Who Pays?
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The host pays and only those who will be invited to the wedding should be invited to an engagement party. It's not appropriate to ask the bridal party to foot the bill. Unless you agreed to any particular dollar amount or even agreed to help at all, you're not obligated. Perhaps someone should call this person and tactfully set her straight about wedding etiquette to avoid any future faux pas.
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Engagment Party - Who Pays?
