FMIL's guest list exceeded capacity and we were unaware!
Thank you for posting invaluable advice on this forum. I searched for this question, but couldn't locate a specific answer.
Our venue has a strict maximum capacity of 90 people (including the Groom and me). Although my parents are generously paying for the whole wedding, they kindly agreed to allocate 30 spots each to themselves, FI and me and my future in laws. Because the wedding is small, we're only inviting significant others if they are truly significant (engaged, married, living together, long term relationship). FMIL sent me a list that included 30 guests as I requested. Save the Dates have been sent, and invitations have gone to print.
Just yesterday, FMIL casually mentioned to FI that "Uncle Bob" would be bringing a date. Of course, the date had never been mentioned, and the date is not a "significant other" as defined. It was revealed that FMIL told all of her single guests that dates were welcome. Several of these guests have purchased plane tickets for their dates! All told, this brings our guest list to 98. Clearly, this is not acceptable; FI told his mother so. Although FMIL assures us that there will be cancellations, I know that it's horribly improper to invite more than can be accomodated. What in the world can we do to rectify the situation? Thank you for your response.
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Re: [gobears] FMIL's guest list exceeded capacity and we were unaware!
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Dear Gobears,
The only thing you can do is to put it in her lap. She will have to ensure that her 30 guest limit isn't breached. If that means that she has to call those she invited, then this is what is has to be. It was very gracious of you and your parents to offer her any guests. Your fiance will have to work with her to get her list down.
FMIL's guest list exceeded capacity and we were unaware!
