I am having some issues with the step mother of the groom. I chose my bridesmaids and did not include her daughter, also the half sister of the groom. Now she is extremely mad and has become down right nasty. I refuse to give in to her and put her daughter in the wedding. Is this ok?
This is an issue best decide between you and your fiance. There is no etiquette that says you have to choose siblings as bridesmaids; nor is there any etiquette that says you even have to HAVE bridesmaids.
Please speak to your groom and remember; these people will be your family so weigh the pros and cons here. Is it really worth the turmoil to include the young lady? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
We have talked about and he has no problems with the people that I have chosen. They have held resentment against him since his first marriage (this will be his second) because she was not included in the first one. Noe I feel that I'm getting the bulk of her anger over past issues that have nothing to do with me. How am I supposed to deal with that?
It would help a lot if you could simply include his sister and make them happy, if possible. I think that would be the easiest way to go about this. If you cannot include her in the wedding party perhpas she could do a reading or hand out programs. If you don't want to include her at all I would have your groom speak to his step mother. Try not to get involved yourself. If you absolutely have to be involved have the discussion together and post a united front. If you go it alone against the step mother you will only giver her reason to be angry with you. Let your groom be the person she conflicts with. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
(This post was
edited by TWQadmin on Dec 15, 2004, 5:00 PM)
Family problems
