My fiance and I announced our engagement 3 months ago.
Our circumstances are unusual - neither of us are from the same country and at the moment we live together in a third country. We plan to marry here in this third country.
My fiance has met my parents, however I have not met his, although we will take a trip there before the wedding.
My parents, family and friends from my home country have recieved the news enthousastically; most have sent well-wishes, cards or even engagement gifts. However not a single person from my finance family has sent anything more than a one paragraph email which does little more than acknowledge the announcement.
My finance says that his family are just very relaxed about things like this, and that they are truely happy and supportive of our decision, however I cannot help but be disapointed and concerned by the lack of contact. His family have said they will fly to whatever country we choose to marry in however.
My finance blames the fact that they've never met me before for their lack of contact, however I don't feel this is a great excuse. Its to the point where I cannot talk to him about this without him becoming defensive.
I was considering writing a letter to his family, a kind of self-introduction, to explain our wedding plans and similar things. Do you think this would be a good idea? Do you have other suggestions?
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Re: [Iko] Fiance's parents lack of interest
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Dear Iko,
We are all different is some ways. He seems to know his family and realizes that this is the way they are. His family is not so unique. There are many who are a bit relaxed or reserved.
They may not want that much contact with someone they don't know yet. It may be best to discuss your idea with your fiance. He knows them best.
Please don't feel as if they are not pleased with you. It seems that this is just the way they are.
Fiance's parents lack of interest
