I am not sure where to post this because its more of an "I need advice" type of thing but I guess it can also deal with etiquette. I got engaged in March, and obviously being excited about it I called everyone to tell the good news and sent everyone pictures of my ring. A few weeks later my friend (who is not engaged yet) sent me a picture of a ring she wants her bf to buy her when they get engaged. The ring she picked is my ring! If it were just a solitare or a 3-stone ring it wouldent be that big of a deal but there are things that really set it apart from thoes types of engagement rings. I just kinda brushed it off and made a joke about how I like it cause I see it on my hand every day. A few weeks ago I sent her a picture of a dress that I found that I want as my wedding dress. This week she sent me pictures of a dress she tried on that she wants to get as her wedding dress. The dress she picked is my dress! I said something about it and the reply was oh well no one will notice. It dosent stop there either. I have been talking since before I was even engaged about having my wedding on the beach, an elegant but tropical theme. I found the perfect place for it and everything. Well guess who informed me they will be having a beach wedding too! I have no idea what to do and this is really upsetting me. She is even telling everyone that her wedding is going to be 4 months before mine, so when everyone comes to my wedding it is going to look like I copied everything that she did when in reality I was engaged first, I had a date picked out first, and pretty much everything I picked and got was first (I know that makes me sound like a baby, but everyone wants their wedding to be memorable and have things that set them apart from other weddings, well obviously that isnt happening with mine). Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this (other than moving my wedding up so I can still be the orignal and everyone will know that she was the copy, or just changing my theme all together)? Has anyone had this happen to them also?
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Re: [FutureMrsJ] Aggrivated and needing advice
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I would ignore her since she's not even engaged yet. It sounds like she's feeling jealous and is looking for attention. Don;t give it to her and maybe she'll stop. Don't provide her with any more details and she won't be able to copy you.
Bottom line - she may be irritating but I don't see any harm. It'[s really hard to find a wedding that is totally different from any that have cone before - unless you have some sort of circus.
Just plan the wedding that makes you and your groom happy. You're really trying to make memories for the two of you - if the guests are impressed, that's icing in the (wedding) cake! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Re: [FutureMrsJ] Aggrivated and needing advice
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I completely agree. She is talking about doing all of this, but you are actually doing it. If she copies, well, that just means that you have excellent ideas.
Enjoy each other and forget the competition. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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