My boyfriend of three and a half years has a son who is getting married. I am fond of his son and the rest of his family. I am usually included in his family’s celebrations and gatherings. He has been divorced from his ex for several years, his ex and I do not have a history and we have never met. My understanding is that they have an amicable relationship. As parents of the groom, my boyfriend and his ex are hosting a largish engagement party at an event facility. Is it poor etiquette for me to be invited to the party?
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Aug 7, 2008, 1:39 PM
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Dear Iris,
You definitely can attend if invited. It shouldn't be a problem.
Please remind your boyfriend that only those invited to the wedding may be invited to any prewedding event and this shouldn't be considered a gift giving event--no mentioning gifts.
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I did not receive an invitation, and as of yet, my boyfriend has not asked me if I would like to go. He tells me some of the ongoing preparations, and when he mentions going to the party, he says “I” not “we” which leads me to believe that I am not to be included. I was unsure if it was proper to be invited, by either invitation or by him personally, as it may be an occasion to be shared by the parents of the groom rather than include their significant others. Is it common for divorced parents not to invite their significant others to the engagement party or wedding if there are no family conflicts? My feelings are becoming hurt and I want to handle this properly if he does not ask me to go. I would appreciate your advice.
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Aug 7, 2008, 4:24 PM
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This really is a personal matter, as some feel awkward around their ex when in the company of their present significant other. This may be the case.
Most often the person would take his or her significant other. There is no rule either way. But, it may be best to come right out and ask. Then you will know what his reasoning is. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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