Grooms family wants to celebrate other occasions on MY/OUR wedding weekend
the grooms family wants to celebrate (their) Christmas and also the grooms brothers birthday...all on the weekend of the wedding. The wedding is to take place on December 30, 2006. They will arrive on Thursday and want to celebrate (their) Christmas that day and the grooms brother's birthday the next day. I say (bride's mother) that this is the bride and groom's time and no other celebrations should take away from the wedding festivities. Both families have out of town guests who will be arriving on Thursday before the wedding and all want to spend time with both the bride and groom, and this would leave precious little time to spend with their guests. The groom is in the "service" and has little chance to get together with his family, however I feel that this is not the time for his mother to DEMAND the additional celebrations. Additionally, the groom has made it clear that he wants to celebrate his brothers birthday, but the other is not important to him. The bride is getting very stressed out and hurt over this problem. It is, after all, HER SPECIAL DAY of all days and she wants it to be all wedding festivities period. Everyone is coming here for a wedding, not for other celebrations. The brides mother is paying for the wedding with no assistance from the grooms family. What is the proper thing to do? I am at a loss as to how to handle this situation. PLEASE HELP!!!! I don't want my daughter's day to be ruined. SO, please help us, any advice would be welcome.
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Re: [Betican] Grooms family wants to celebrate other occasions on MY/OUR wedding weekend
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Dear MOB,
The couple decides how their wedding should be no matter who is paying for it, which these days it is the couple. So, it is best that the groom speaks to his mother.
If she wants to spend time with her family, that is fine. But, she cannot plan the wedding or related events (perhaps the rehearsal dinner). The guests may choose which events they wish to attend. The couple has all planning rights.
Grooms family wants to celebrate other occasions on MY/OUR wedding weekend
the grooms family wants to celebrate (their) Christmas and also the grooms brothers birthday...all on the weekend of the wedding. The wedding is to take place on December 30, 2006. They will arrive on Thursday and want to celebrate (their) Christmas that day and the grooms brother's birthday the next day. I say (bride's mother) that this is the bride and groom's time and no other celebrations should take away from the wedding festivities. Both families have out of town guests who will be arriving on Thursday before the wedding and all want to spend time with both the bride and groom, and this would leave precious little time to spend with their guests. The groom is in the "service" and has little chance to get together with his family, however I feel that this is not the time for his mother to DEMAND the additional celebrations. Additionally, the groom has made it clear that he wants to celebrate his brothers birthday, but the other is not important to him. The bride is getting very stressed out and hurt over this problem. It is, after all, HER SPECIAL DAY of all days and she wants it to be all wedding festivities period. Everyone is coming here for a wedding, not for other celebrations. The brides mother is paying for the wedding with no assistance from the grooms family. What is the proper thing to do? I am at a loss as to how to handle this situation. PLEASE HELP!!!! I don't want my daughter's day to be ruined. SO, please help us, any advice would be welcome. 
