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My fiancé and I are having a formal evening reception and will not be having any children in the wedding nor will we be inviting any children to the reception. Also, by word of mouth it has gotten out to many guests that this is an "Adult Reception". We only addressed the invitations to the adults invited and put "and guest" on the invitations of the adults who are single.
My mother has now been getting a few calls from relatives asking if they can take a teen aged child in lieu of their spouse and also those who are single asking if they can take their teen aged child as their guest.
Financially and numbers wise, I do not mind this because we have already budgeted for and allotted 2 places at the reception for each invitation sent out. However, I am afraid that those who have followed etiquette and left their children at home to come with their spouse, or by themselves, will be offended because they will not know of the circumstances in which the other children were allowed to attend.
My question is, what should we say to these people who call and ask if they can bring their child in lieu of their spouse or as their guest?
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Oct 26, 2007, 4:46 PM
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Re: [X-Cited] Guests Bringing Children in lieu of "Invited Guest"
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Dear X-Cited,
Thank you for the compliment.
You have followed etiquette perfectly for planning an adult only event. Bravo!
Perhaps you could say exactly what you said here, that those who aren't bringing their children, because it is a child free event, may be insulted. That is an excellent reply--thoughtful and considerate.
Re: [X-Cited] Guests Bringing Children in lieu of "Invited Guest"
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That really is tough. Consistency is likely your best plan of action - I agree. Telling those who are calling that it would create an uncomfortable situation for others who complied with your requests is the most dignified response. You did everything right! Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
Guests Bringing Children in lieu of Invited Guest
