We have out of town and local guests who will come in prior to and after the rehearsal dinner (which the Groom's family is hosting). How do you tell the guests politely on other days that it is "dutch treat?"
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Dear LA-Siren,
There is no way to politely inform guests that they pay for themselves. If they are invited to an event, the host pays. So, don't invite them to anything that you aren't paying all the costs.
And, it may be best to keep the guest list to only those participating in the rehearsal to the rehearsal dinner.
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Thanks so much for this info. We have many out of town guests who will be in town for the wedding, which is on a Sunday. Many are coming into town for the rehearsal dinner, which is on Thursday, and many others are arriving on the Friday. They will all want to be with us on the Friday and Saturday night. But we can't buy everybody dinner on Friday and Saturday too. And we can't tell them they aren't welcome to be with us on the Friday and Saturday. (Plus, we want to see them. :) What's the correct way to handle this?
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Perhaps you could provide a list of activities they can do on their own and inform them where you will be if they'd like to join you. If you avoid "inviting," you're fine. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
How do you say "Dutch Treat" to guests politely?
