I have a friend who i was best friends with up until she met her boyfriend 8 years ago. She then acted like she didnt like me , stopped calling me, was rude when i did talk to her and insulted me. We were best friends from 5 years old to 21, she always told me i would be a brides maid in her wedding. she called me after not hearing from her for two years to tell me im invited to her wedding. I asked her who was in the wedding party and she has 1 sister and two friends of hers. Our conversation was very fake and distant. Then I get a letter from her saying she loves me and i am her best friend in the whole world and the wedding will be terrible without me.
I feel very hurt in that she never even called me when she was planning the wedding, hurt that i have not gotten together with her in 8 years, hurt that im not in the bridal party, mad that shes calling me her best friend.
I feel if i go i will be miserable and mad the whole time, i also will feel uncomfortable since i havent seen her family in 8 years because she stopped seeing me.
What should I do? My heart says not to go.
Nancy Tucker
PRESIDENT - WEDDINGS BEAUTIFUL
Dec 8, 2004, 4:39 PM
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The lengthy separation has taken its toll on your devotion to the friendship and you should follow your heart and not go unless you have a desire to rekindle the friendship. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Dec 8, 2004, 4:42 PM
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Dear I Don't Want to go,
You don't have to go if you don't want to. In fact, you probably shouldn't because it appears as if you will not be able to conceal your disappointment in your friend. Don't feel badly about your decision. People drift apart and sometimes become different people as they grow older.
Jill
Psychotherapist: Second Weddings & Stepfamilies
Dec 9, 2004, 9:03 AM
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I am sorry to day it is not the first time I have heard of someone dropping a girl friend when a serious boy friend comes on the scene.
I can understand that all this has been very painful for you - think carefully and go with what you want to do. Do you want to go for old times sake - or have you moved on as well? Dont go out of a sense of duty - only if you want to go because of an old close friendship. Jill Curtis Psychotherapist, Author How to Get Married ... Again (A Guide to Second Weddings) London, UK http://www.familyonwards.com
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