Monday marks exactly two months prior to my wedding. I had been advised to send wedding invitations two months prior. They will be sent out at that time. However, today I received a bridal shower invitation for myself hosted by my fiance's aunt. Is it appropriate for her to send out those invitations prior to my sending the wedding invites? She also spelled my name wrong on the invite and they are treating me like I'm the bad guy for letting them know. Isn't the mispelling of the bride's name a pretty big oversight?
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Wedding invitations should be sent out 6 to 8 weeks prior to the wedding date. Bridal shower invitations should be sent after the wedding invitations but since they have already gone out there is not much you can do. Just be sure that the guests invited to the bridal shower are also invited to the wedding. Go ahead and send out your invitations.
Regarding the misspelled name I would calmly and politely let someone know the proper spelling of the bride's name for future reference but again, since the shower invitations have already been mailed there isn't much you can do. Remember, the wedding invitations are now being sent with your name spelled correctly so all of your guests will know that the name on the wedding invitation is the correct spelling.
I would try to stay out of the shower planning since these people will soon be your family too and you won't want to cause a rift before you're even married. This is one of the reasons why family members are not supposed to host a bridal shower.
Try to enlist the help of a close friend or family member who can get involved with the shower planner and consult with them before any future problems occur. This will leave you out of it and keep your relationships with these future in-laws intact.
Finally, try not to sweat the small stuff. Things like misspellings on shower invitations are not the end of the world. Try to focus on the "big picture", (your love and future life) and what you have control over. When all is said and done none of these minor details will be remembered unless you MAKE them memorable.
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