Save the dates were sent out for my daughter's wedding. It was decided that great aunts and uncles would be invited but second cousins would not be invited. My widowed aunt was suppose to receive a save the date but instead the save the date went to her son who has the same name as her late husband. It was addressed to "Mrs. John Doe" with the address of her son "John Doe", they do not live in the same house or for that matter the same town. John Doe, Jr. opened the save the date even though he is not a Mrs. and is not married. The problem is that he is now assuming that he is invited(he is not), and my aunt is mad that she did not receive an invite. Perhaps the most important reason for this question is that my daughter does not want this person at her wedding as at the last family he attended he had all of the young children asking the other guests for money, tacky : ( Needless to say my daughter does not want this person at her wedding. The question is are we obligated to invite this person and if so how do we treat the remaining uninvited cousins (totaling an extra 30 people and not in the budget) and if we are not obligated to send him a real invite how do we "disinvite" him ? Help!!! Thank you for any help that you can give me. : )
The save the date was sent to him regardless of where you thought it should have gone. So, he is invited and should receive a formal invitation. There is no polite way to disinvite him, so I cannot advise you on this. Your daughter is under no obligation to invite any of the other cousins.
This is unfortunate, but another very good reason to double check the addresses before mailing.
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