Due to an incident that happened between me and my aunt... we do not get along. Although I am not too pleased with my cousin (her daughter) I would like to invite my cousin to my shower and 2nd reception. The only reason that I am inviting her is because she is, to the rest of the family, the "sweetheart" and has always been babied by them. I know the true side of her that they never saw. If I don't invite at least my cousin, a few of my other cousins and aunts/uncles will get upset and I don't want family mad at me (I kept the incident under-wraps to prevent the incident from getting any bigger... family likes to butt into stuff that does not concern them).
My question is... how do I tackfully invite my cousin to the two events without my cousin dragging her mother with. My aunt invites herself to events when she is not invited.
Oh... another problem is... I live only 4 blocks away from my aunt, which she does not know, and I don't want her to know. If I send out an invite I can't put a return address on the envelope (that and I do not have my cousin's address). Would it be too tacky to email her an invite? They do not live together.
Thank You
Pat
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Mar 30, 2007, 1:12 PM
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Re: [Walvarro] Invite cousin but not the mother
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Dear Pat,
You shouldn't have anything to do with your shower. You wouldn't invite anyone, because you don't plan. You can give a list to a friend (not family) to do so if someone offers to host one. The shower is an optional party that is never requested. The host may use evites.
Please ask the person who is planning this shower to read our many posts on the proper etiquette for showers or any etiquette book. A shower must be planned carefully to avoid appearing as a greed fest.
There really is nothing you can do if your aunt shows up except to smile and be gracious. You would not be the host anyway.
Invite cousin but not the mother
