My fiance and I are having a debate about wether or not he should be inviting his ex girlfriend to our upcoming wedding. He had a 4 year on/off relationship with her. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable with it, so I say no. They are 'still friends' and he would feel bad not inviting her. What do I do?
Etiquette Now
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Jan 24, 2005, 3:47 PM
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Re: [Leanne] Inviting the ex-girlfriend
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Dear Inviting,
Actually, inviting the ex is not a good idea in most cases. It is confusing for the guests and could be potentially embarrassing for both the ex and bride (groom).
It really is not a good idea and there is no etiquette related reason to invite her.
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Sounds like a good, long discussion with the fiance is in order here. Ask him why he feels so compelled to invite this woman. Maybe he doesn't understand just how uncomfortable you are just thinking about having here at your wedding. Please make sure to impress upon him just how difficult it will be for you to have her present. You might also want to do a little soul searching to be sure YOU understand why having here ther is so uncomfortable too. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Jill
Psychotherapist: Second Weddings & Stepfamilies
Jan 25, 2005, 10:59 AM
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He would feel 'bad' about not inviting her! Tough - you are the bride and if you are not comfortable with anyone on the guest list then they do not get invited. Jill Curtis Psychotherapist, Author How to Get Married ... Again (A Guide to Second Weddings) London, UK http://www.familyonwards.com
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