In general, I guess my question is, is it rude or inappropriate to talk about how wonderful our wedding was? It really was beautiful, perfect actually. I am so happy with the way everything turned out that I would like to share it with everyone, but I feel sort of like I'm tooting my own horn if I do. Particularly, I get embarrassed talking about the wedding with people we weren't able to invite.
My dilemma stems also to our Thank You cards. In Thank You notes to people who attended the wedding, I thanked them for being there. In the ones to those who were invited, but weren't able to attend, I told them we missed them at the wedding but understand they couldn't attend (it was out of town). We have received gifts from people who weren't invited. I am at a loss for what to say to those who have sent gifts, but weren't invited. I feel that "thank you for your gift" is not quite enough. Is it okay to at least tell them that we had a beautiful day?
Thanks,
Mari
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
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Re: [MariJay] Is it okay to talk about the wedding?
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Dear Mari,
It is fine to talk about your wedding to those you couldn't invite as long as it is not the only topic you choose to talk about. But, it is even better to wait until someone asks you how your wedding day was.
You really didn't need to write thank you notes to those who attended if they didn't give you a gift. They may feel that you are expecting one. But, it is a nice gesture. The same goes for those who were unable to attend.
For those who gave a gift and were not invited, it may be best to just say thank you and not go into great detail about the wedding or why you couldn't invite them. Just be sincere in your thanks.
Re: [Et.byRebecca] Is it okay to talk about the wedding?
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Thanks Rebecca. I definitely do NOT go on and on about the wedding. I get uncomfortable or embarassed even when folks DO ask me about it, especially those who weren't invited.
As for the thank you notes, for the most part, they were thanks for gifts. The only "non-gift" thank you was to groom's dad & his girlfriend - for being part of our day.
Our thank you card is comprised of our wedding photos. Would you suggest that I send a non-photo card to people who sent gifts but weren't invited to the wedding (although I'm sure they would like to see the pictures)? I just don't want to be rude.
Thanks again.
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
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Re: [MariJay] Is it okay to talk about the wedding?
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I doubt that you could be rude with as much consideration you have for others.
It really is your choice to send the pictures, although I think they would like to see them. I just didn't think they would want to hear about the wedding they were not invited to share. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Is it okay to talk about the wedding?
