I am getting married in February and currently in a huge argument with my parents. My parents are paying for the entire wedding, which i totally am grateful for. However, from the beginning my fiance and I have said that we do not want children at the wedding. Well, now my mother is demanding that 3 of my cousins who are under 16 attend the wedding. 2 of them live in Memphis and one is in the city of the wedding. However, the 2 children that live in Memphis have grandparents there to stay with while there parents attend the wedding.
My fiance and I have been very adamant about not wanting them to attend, but agreed to let them attend if an insert was put into the invitations stating why some children are invited and others are not. I have a very large family and if I tell all but 2 sets of parents they can bring their children and everyone else they cannot people are going to be upset.
My father is a VERY controlling person and is not reasonable, yells, cusses and screams alot, he feels that I am still a child and he can control everything; especially this because he is paying for it. My parents cannot understand that it is the bride and grooms final decision as to who comes, yes I understand we need to take their feelings and wishes into consideration but from the beginning we have said no children. They will not even meet us in the middle to compromise about it with the insert in the invitations.
My fiance is very adamant about the children not coming and is willing to cancel the wedding and get married where we are having our honeymoon instead of having the big wedding. He feels that this is my father's way of continuing to control me and if he gets his way he will feel he cant continue to control me for the rest of our lives and he is not going to have my Dad rule over us. Which I understand that and my Dad is a very controlling person and feels he is in charge of everyone and everything.
So I have the decision of either letting my parents invite the three children and my fiance never speaking to them again or two canceling the wedding getting married elsewhere that way there are no arguments about a guest list and who knows how my parents will react.
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edited by troubled on Nov 9, 2006, 12:29 PM)
MOB & FOB controlling- URGENT
