My wedding is early December of this year. Three weeks ago I was diagnosed with cancer. Fortunately, it was caught very early and the doctors are extremely optomistic that I will be totally cured in two months. My treatment should be completed by the first or second week of November if all goes according to plan. There is a possibility I'll have to have a break midway through if complications arise. Despite this, my doctors say there is no reason we should postpone the wedding as I will have a few weeks to recover and should have enough energy to get through the day. Before this all came about, I was planning on mailing out our invitations the last week in September since many of our guests are coming from out of state and need to make travel arrangements. Should I go ahead and stick with that plan, or should I wait a few extra weeks "just in case?"
I appreciate any advice you can give. Thank you.
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Dear Marillian,
There are many ways to deal with exhaustion if that is a problem on your wedding day or beforehand. Wheelchairs are a great tool. And, taking short naps are as well. The Multiple Sclerosis website has many tips on how to deal with exhaustion. You might find even more ideas there.
So, if this is the only problem you feel might come up, then perhaps you should continue with your wedding plans.
However, sending invitations this early isn't a great idea. It is best to send save the dates or at least contact those from out of town about the wedding. You should send your invitations eight weeks before the wedding.
I'm sorry about the diagnosis and hope everything goes as well as your doctors foresee it.
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I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis, but happy it's been diagnosed early. That's wonderful news for you.
I don't want to be negative, but do you have a plan in place in case you're not feeling your best when it gets closer to your date?
I recently had a mastectomy and was told recovery would take 6 to 8 weeks (I figured, okay, WITHIN 6 to 8 weeks I'll be recovered). I was anticipating attending my son's graduation which was to take place exactly 8 weeks from the date of my surgery. I was still on pain medication and was able to attend but I wish I could have been more pain free and able to enjoy the day more. It actually took me several weeks after that before I began to feel more like myself again. However, I did not have to have chemo. My point is that everyone reacts differently to medications, surgeries and pain. So, I'm just suggesting that you have a plan in place just in case you find you're not going to be at your best. I hope that is not the case with you and that you bounce back and enjoy the wedding of your dreams.
The American Cancer Society has a program in place, Look Good...Feel Better. They offer makeup tips and that sort of thing. See if they offer this in your area.
Congratulations. You certainly have a lot to celebrate!
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