I always thought that after the couple became engaged, if there was not an engagement party, the fiancee's parents invited the fiance's parents for dinner including the engaged couple at the bride's home. In the lastest etiquette book I read, it said that it is common for the groom's mother to call on the bride's mother after their engagement announcement. Are there any social etiquette rules about this? As soon as my oldest daughter became engaged, I told her and her fiance that I wanted to have his family over for a bbq and mentioned it several times since, but got no involvement from my daughter and her fiance. I did meet the mother briefly several months before their engagement.
How about in the case of an elopement where the couple has no reception which was the case of two of my sons? Or how about if it's a second marriage for one of them? Have these social niceties been done away with or what is the common custom? No hard and fast rules and just whatever the couple wants? I didn't see an engagement thread, so I thought I'd ask here! Thank you!
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Mar 20, 2007, 6:04 PM
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Re: [brides'mom] Meeting the Inlaw-to-be
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Dear Bride's Mom,
Traditionally, the groom's mother would call and organize some sort of get-together. But, today's couples are more independent than those in the past. Parents are no longer financially responsible, so they really are not as much a part of the process unless the couple wishes it. This is the case for all types of weddings.
It is a nice gesture for either parent to contact the other so they can get to know each other. This is usually done with the couple in tow, but it doesn't have to be the case.
Meeting the Inlaw-to-be
