My fiance and I are paying for all events associated with the wedding. We decided this because the parents of the bride are not able to donate and we are financially capable of doing this ourselves. With that said, the mother of the bride is getting overly involved with who should or shouldn't be invited and wants to see who the mother of the groom is inviting. She also wants the wedding to occurr closer to her than where the bride wants to have the wedding. How do we politely tell the mother of the bride that she doesn't get a say in anything if she's not paying?
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Feb 6, 2007, 3:31 PM
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I'd suggest having the bride speak to her mom. She can tell her, without her being embarrassed, how she feels about her level of involvement. Ask the bride what she would be willing to allow her mom to do and ask her to give her mom some other roles to divert her attention. When the mother of the bride asks for things like seeing the guest list just side step it by saying you have that covered or that she shouldn't worry about that. Let her know that the two of you have everything under control and you just want her to enjoy.
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Feb 7, 2007, 9:18 AM
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I completely agree. Great advice. Plus, she could also inform her that parents aren't involved as they once were. They are not financially responsible for their children's weddings so they don't plan or invite. Even if she was contributing this would be the case. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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