We will be having an informal wedding in Tahoe and going next door to a restaurant for dinner and drinks after ceremony. There appears to be alot of people who want to come to our surprise so we are unsure of whether we should pay for all the food, or everybody pays their own being that because of the travel we would not be expecting gifts anyhow, or should we???
Also, because of the informality, would it be appropriate to have a cake delivered for after dinner or should we just skip the cake. It does not seem to fit in for some reason. HELP!
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edited by TWQadmin on May 5, 2004, 11:11 AM)
Please do not ask your guests to pay for your reception. This is basically what you would be doing if you invite them to share in a celebration and you are not paying for it. If the cost is a burden to you, plan something small, like cake and tea, later at your home or the home of a relative.
As for having a cake delivered to the restaurant, first you would have to inquire if it is appropriate to do so. Most of the time it is. However, do take note that (usually) you will be expected to pay a service charge and should tip generously.
Also, the restaurant may have a pastry chef who could provide you with a nice cake.
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