My dear sister, who has waited many years to get married, has set her wedding date for May of this year. The problem is that the guy has not proposed yet. If you ask her why he hasn't proposed yet, she will tell you that she doesn't know.
I see red flags but, I have kept it to myself until now.
Two days ago, she called and told me that she wants me to be a bridesmaid but, we have to have the orders in by Thursday of this week. So, she gave 5 days notice to pay 60% on my dress and my daughter's dress (flower girl). So, now that my money is involved, I am really concerned about the lack of an engagement. She has even said, "No, we are not engaged."
I have a feeling that she is using this as a tactic to corner the guy into proposing since she is in full wedding planning mode. I don't want to get involved with that topic but, I don't feel comfortable about putting down a large deposit on dresses for a wedding that doesn't really exist yet.
How should I deal with this situation and should I demand more information regarding the lack of an engagement?
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Jan 23, 2007, 2:59 PM
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Re: [Brides_Sister] Not Engaged but Sister has set Date!! Help
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Dear Sis,
This story makes me really want to go back and finish my degree in Psychology. It appears to me that we have a problem here. She is planning something that doesn't exist and may never happen. It is your decision what to do from here. But, if it were me, I sit down with my sister and have a long discussion about what is real and what is not and why she is doing this. Also, if it were me, I wouldn't be involved with any of it until I knew for a fact that there is a groom.
She may need you very much right now, for more than just a bridesmaid.
Not Engaged but Sister has set Date!! Help
