One of my closest friends from high school is getting married in less than three weeks. Several months ago she informed several of our friends who were single that we would be invited alone (no "and guest"). Although the way this was said was rather hurtful, I originally figured it was her wedding and I would be the bigger person and just go alone. However, in the last few months I have began dating a man who I consider a long term partner, and I would very much like to have him attend this wedding with me. While I understand her constraints (she has explained to mutual friends that the reception hall is "at capacity), she has also chosen to invite several mutual acquaintances who she has not spoken to in several years really. In addition, she recently asked me to read at the wedding (it is a Catholic mass) as she wanted me to "be included." I guess I feel that if I am important enough to buy a shower gift, a wedding gift, attend the rehersal dinner, and speak at the wedding, I should be afforded the chance to have a guest with me. I am 24 years old, not a teenager, and despite the fact that she is my longtime friend, I am very tempted to simply show up with my boyfriend and let her deal with it. I have considered talking to her about this, but have recently been informed that another mutual friend of ours is in the same position and has not received very welcoming responses from her regarding the situation. I realize that this is her party, and she is certainly very stressed out about it right now, but as her friend I am sincerely hurt with her lack of concern for how this affects her guests.
what should i do?!
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
May 24, 2004, 6:17 PM
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Re: [siempre555] Not allowed to bring a guest?
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Dear Not Allowed,
I'm sorry that you feel slighted, but the invitation states one person, not two. It is a delicate balancing act the bride and groom perform as they make up the guest list. There is often limited space and most often obligatory guests that must be invited.
The bride has stated that the reception hall is at capacity. Please do not make her life anymore stressful. As a good friend, please help her.
Not allowed to bring a guest?
