Thank you for all the great advice! I've been reading this forum a lot lately and the advice is always spot-on.
I have always been very nice to the best man's wife and she usually has been nice to me. She is not someone I know well (we've met twice for vacations) but we keep in touch online. That said, quite recently, we had a falling out online (they live in another country) through an abusive email she sent me out of the blue. I was taken aback and responded fairly forcefully. I have never really liked this woman but was very kind to her on behalf of my fiance but I feel that this really takes the cake. The last thing I want on the most memorable day of my life is to see her unpleasant face and risk her acting out abusively in front of guests or the best man making inappropriate comments in his toast. My fiance just asked the best man to fill that role in the wedding two days before she sent the email. Where does one draw the line at not inviting someone or several someone's due to a spouse's behavior? The invitations have not gone out yet. Again, the rest of the wedding is going well and I appreciate any advice on this subject. Thank you.
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Sep 1, 2008, 1:59 PM
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Re: Not inviting best man's wife to wedding
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Dear Questioner,
Thank you for the compliments. We do try.
We always invite significant others. But as hosts, we also have to provide a certain level of comfort for our guests. So, this is not an easy yes or no question or answer.
Since it is most polite to invite her, it may be best for your fiance to speak to his Best Man about this. If this is a problem, he may not want to be involved in the wedding at this point. So, your next problem (and probably easier to solve problem) may be finding a new Best Man. If this leads nowhere, then it may be best to invite her and hope she doesn't want a personal face to face interaction. We tend to say things "on-line" that we would never say face to face. Let's hope this is the case here.
Not inviting best man's wife to wedding
