My finance is active duty military. We have our wedding scheduled for the 22nd of December. All of the arrangements have been made, vendors paid for, and invitations mailed.
His command has informed him today that he may not be allowed to return to the States. He explained that he was getting married and was basically told they would let him know as soon as they could (which probably means Dec 21st or so). Gotta love it.
What do I do now??? Everything has been done - how to I post-pone this if he finds out for sure he will not be returning? All of his family is coming from out of state - so all of them will have airfare to deal with. Do I let them know the possibility now - or do I wait until I know for sure? Please point me in some type of direction other than the downward spiral I am headed into!!!
Thanks
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Oct 30, 2006, 5:59 PM
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Re: [iluhbs] Post-poning after invitations are sent??
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Dear Spiraling,
This is unfortunate. It would be best to contact everyone as soon as possible about the possibility. If you have to cancel, it is best to send a card to all of the guests stating that the wedding has been postponed date to be determined. But, if you have to cancel last minute, you may have to call everyone.
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Rebecca,
Thanks for responding. When I do the cards, should I be specific as to why we are post poning? Because he is military, I don't want to send people in a panic thinking that something awful is about to happen. But then again, I don't want to have to answer 300 times why either.
You know - I listened to everyone's horror stories about being stressed out - and I haven't been this entire time until now. Everything just fell into place for us. I even bragged to a friend that this wasn't so hard planning a wedding - hmpf - I will never do that again - lol.
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Oct 30, 2006, 6:18 PM
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You really don't need to go into detail. But, since everyone knows about him being on active duty, it may be best. They may worry. So, be as brief as possible, just stating that due to a scheduling problem... . That should do it.
Re: [Et.byRebecca] Post-poning after invitations are sent??
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HE IS COMING HOME!!!!!!!!!!! I took your advice and let everyone know what was happening. This past weekend, I was able to tell everyone it was just a bad dream - lol. He is coming home on the 18th of December. WHile he HAS to be back on the 26th - we are so thankful for the time we do have together.
Thank you so much for the advice and for keeping me from loosing my mind.
Christin
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Dec 2, 2006, 2:53 PM
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That IS good news. Thanks for sharing it with us!
Please let us know how everything turns out.
Please thank your fiance for his service and we thank both of you for your sacrifice in honor of our freedom.
God Bless. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Dec 3, 2006, 3:55 PM
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I am so glad!! And, crying. I am so happy for you both!
I'm so sorry, though, that you will have so little time together. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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