My fiancee and I are planning a very private wedding and dinner(immediate family only) followed by a large cocktail and hors d'eourve reception. My future mother-in-law wants to invite out-of-town guests and family to the wedding as "they have traveled so far". She also thinks these people should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. What is the proper etiquette on this situation? (Also, the invitations that were mailed out said that we were having a private ceremony and the honor of their presence was requested at the reception.) Help - The wedding is only 6 weeks away!
If these people were invited to the wedding, they would have to be invited to the dinner. Plus, it really isn't usually the best choice to invite a lot of extra guests to the rehearsal dinner. It turns the party into more of a reunion party.
She can want to invite, but it isn't her right. Parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's weddings, so they also do not plan or invite. The couple is wholly responsible and decide what type of event they have and who is invited.
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