This happened about two years ago, but I am curious if I committed an error in wedding etiquette: my daughter was a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding. The bride-to-be had been at my home numerous times and I felt an affection towards her, of course. My daughter had told me that the wedding guest list had to be pared down due to financial reasons, which I understood. I was still hoping to be invited (this was also an out-of-town wedding). When the invitations were issued, my husband and I were not on the list. I did understand, but I very much wanted to be at the wedding ceremony for two reasons: to see the bride on her special day, and to see my daughter come down the aisle as a bridesmaid. I expressed my desire to go to the wedding only to my daughter - I never would have suggested inviting myself to the reception. My daughter was concerned about space availability in the church, and mentioned to the bride was it OK for us to just sit in the back of the church to see the ceremony, and then we would leave the ceremony and visit relatives that were close by. My daughter's friend then insisted we also attend the reception, she did not realize that the wedding would have meant that much to us, and she then issued us a wedding invitation. We did attend the wedding and reception (we also gave both shower and wedding gifts), and we had a wonderful time. My question is this: was it improper for me to even suggest attending the ceremony at the church?
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Mar 29, 2007, 4:42 PM
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Re: [Susancarol] Request to attend church ceremony only - OK?
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Dear Susancarol,
It would have been better to ask if your daughter had a video of the ceremony. Asking may have put the bride in an awkward position. But, it turned out fine, so don't worry about it now.
Request to attend church ceremony only - OK?
