I'm the MOB and I'm dealing with parents of the groom who apparently never have read anything on wedding etiquette. Too many issues to list, actually almost every decision that we are trying to make is met with conflict. To eliminate conflict we finally suggested to follow "traditional wedding protocol" to no avail. His parent are extremely contolling and selfish. My daughter had to threaten to call the whole thing off in order to get the reception hall she wanted. We are paying for the originally agreed upon 120 "family only"guests. However the list when up to 150 by the groom and his family to include "only their closest friends". At least they said they would be willing to pay for the extra people.My daughter has attempted to talk to her fiance, but he is manipulated by his parent as well. We attempted a family meeting which did not resolve issues. I am so frustrated I am ready to call it off!!! When I offered to sent them a book on wedding etiquette, my daughter said absolutely not! Please help!
Why are the groom's parents having any say in the decisions at all? If it's about money, the bride and groom should take back the reins by paying for their own wedding and having the first, and last, say on all the decisions. If the groom's aparents aren't paying, then all they can do is make suggestions. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I completely agree, Barb. Why not tighten the purse strings and send a very strong message? Maybe the groom will decide that he and his bride should in control of their lives (and wedding planning) from this point forward. They really should be on the same page. Wedding shouldn't be a power struggle. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Serious groom's parent/groom issues
