The bride's parents are divorced (not friendly). The groom is our only child. Financially, each of the bride's parents does fine as do we. But we would like to let them know we would be happy to contribute more than the traditional groom's expenses. However, would this be disrespectful to make the offer, perhaps implying we think they dont make enough money to pay for a nice wedding? That's not why we would happily contribute more; we just want to do what is fair and right and we have the ability to contribute more than is traditionally expected of the groom's family. Should we ask the bride's father directly or first ask our future daughter-in-law how she thinks her father would feel about our offer?
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Jun 14, 2004, 11:22 AM
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Re: [Honor] Should groom's parents volunteer to pay more?
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Dear Wants to Pay,
What is traditional is not necessarily what is put into action these days. Today, many couples pay for their own weddings due to the number of them waiting longer to marry and both having good incomes. Families often share the costs, with the couple covering one third and the two sets of parents covering the remaining two thirds. The groom's parents may want to pay for all of the reception costs. It is really up to you what you would like to offer this lucky couple.
You would probably want to talk to the couple directly about this. After all, it is their wedding and it is their choice. They could then make the decision and talk to the bride's parents. To me, your offer is generous and kind, not insulting in any way to the bride's family.
Should groom's parents volunteer to pay more?
