My fiance and I are engaged to be married (have 11 months to go). His brothers wife decided that they wanted to have a wedding too. They have already been married but went to the justice of the peace 11 yrs ago and have 3 kids. My fiance's mom is paying for a majority of her other sons wedding, but hasn't offered to help with the alcohal or be involved in our wedding. I have been reading planning books to make sure i am on task with my wedding duties, and she is getting married in a year and a half and all talk is about her wedding. I'm more upset than anything. I am happy for her but his side nevers asks us about our special day. What should i do?
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Sep 26, 2007, 2:03 PM
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I'm not even sure I understand the issue. Your sister in law is already married. How is she having a wedding? Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Sep 26, 2007, 2:55 PM
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See thats the thing... After my fiance and i got engaged she all of a sudden wanted a wedding too. And its 5 months after mine, so now i feel like its going to be who's wedding is better type thing.
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Sep 26, 2007, 3:54 PM
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11 years later she should not be having a wedding. She's already married. Ridiculous. Can you imagine what people will be thinking when they get those invitations? Perhaps someone should gently suggest that what they are doing is inappropriate and maybe they should consider a vow renewal. That person should not be you.
Frankly, I'm sick to death of these entitled women who make decisions and then think there should be no repercussions. She decided to have a civil ceremony (which is a wedding since a wedding results in a marriage) 11 years ago for whatever reason. She didn't plan the big tahdah wedding. Get over that already. Sheesh...
In any event, you have no control over what these people do. I would just plan the wedding that suits you and enjoy it. Who cares if she tries to out-do you? She's obviously got issues. Focus on your own wedding and ignore her. Whatever you plan for yourselves will be the best wedding for you. Enjoy! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Sep 26, 2007, 4:33 PM
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I couldn't agree more on all accounts. Bravo!
Your future mother in law is contributing to the married brother's vow renewal, oh, excuse me, wedding?? That really is the icing on the not wedding cake.
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Perhaps someone should gently suggest that what they are doing is inappropriate and maybe they should consider a vow renewal. That person should not be you. 
