My stepdaughter is getting married and she never really treated me with any kind of respect because of all the lies her mother told her growing up. With that being said, I still insisted that my husband (her father) pay for part of the wedding. I already decided I will not attend although my daughter is in the bridal party. My husband did all the right things after their divorce, financially and we had her on the weekends, etc. I included her in the births of my two children. My husband is furious with me for not wanting to go. I feel as though this is her "mothers" day and do not want to "walk into the lions den" or make my stepdaughter feel uncomfortable. I would love to have participated in the planning of the wedding and the shower but I know that my help would not be wanted. I want to see my daughter in the wedding and decided to just go to the church and sit in the back. Am I wrong?
I agree with your husband. You have a place at the wedding next to him. If you stay away, won't that be a sort of validation for the exwife? If it were me, I'd attend, head held high, since I had nothing to be ashamed of. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I complete agree. You are his wife, her step mother. It is clear that you wouldn't do anything to make anyone feel uncomfortable because you are so worried about it. So, go. We give you permission. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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