My stepdaughter, 30, is getting married this summer. I am her father's widow; my husband died almost a decade ago. We have been close, I helped raise her and send her to college, but we also have weathered much change during this time. I have a new significant other, and I expect from what she has said that he too will be invited to the wedding. She has asked that my son (her half brother) seat me first as part of the wedding party, which is very touching. I have told her that I am here to help, but that most importantly, this is a special time for her and her mother. She has not asked me to contribute to the wedding. In her father's absence, should I be offering to hold a Sunday brunch for out of town guests or simply contribute to the wedding what I can (even though she hasn't asked)? Thanks.
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Re: [stepmomMass] Stepmother/widow of father of the bride
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I'm sorry for your loss but am impressed with the relationship you have with your stepdaughter. You have such a terrific attitude surrounding her relationship with her mother. She is a lucky woman to have two loving mothers in her life.
It's not a responsibility of the bride's parents to host anything, however, it's always nice to offer. I think if you approach her in the sensitive way you've posted here, your stepdaughter will feel comfortable accepting or declining your generous offer.
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I couldn't agree more. It would be very nice of you to offer and allow her to choose, but definitely not obligatory. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Stepmother/widow of father of the bride
