Thank you for all your advice leading up to the wedding! It was a wonderful day.
I have a problem which should (hopefully) be fairly unique. Always ambitious with multi-tasking, I took my thank you note stationary and list of all the gifts we received on my honeymoon so that I could work on them on the plane. I did a few on the trip over, but realized that I wouldn't want to work on them on the way back because I was tired. I packed them in my suitcase in an outer compartment where they wouldn't get damaged. When the baggage inspector was done, he didn't rezip it well enough and while on the tarmac of the Paris airport, I saw my suitcase being moved to the connecting flight and the thank you notes fall out! The airline was less than helpful about retrieving them and I feel sure that they are gone forever.
My new hubby and I have tried to recreate the gift list using the invitee list still at home and we feel like we are about 95% accurate on the items we can identify. There are some items (cash, etc) that we can only guess who they are from.
My question is how should I handle this? I don't want to appear rude by thanking someone for the wrong gift. I had thought of perhaps typing up a brief explanation of what happened and including it in the invites where I was not totally sure. Any advice would be greatly appreciated on this strange situation.
Thank you!
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Nov 15, 2004, 11:15 AM
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Re: [secondtimebride] Thank you notes flew away
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Dear Thank you notes,
Actually your situation is not so unique these things happen. Although, I haven't heard about the notes flying around an airport. Sorry about that.
Usually the best way to find out who gave what is to employ some close friends and family to act as detectives. They could ask how they liked the wedding and "gee I had so much trouble deciding out what to give, how did you finally decide?"
If that doesn't work out for you, then you will have to be honest. But, the problem here is that you will be assuming that these people did give a gift. Can you imagine how embarrassed the person will be if they did not give anything? This is delicate. So, hopefully your detectives will be able to find all of the clues. And no, they don't have to wear a trench coat.
Thank you notes flew away
