Wedding 2 weeks away our father is not invited to sisters wedding but my ex-husband is!
I am dreading my sisters wedding which is in 2 weeks. First of all my father isn't invited at all, mainly due to my mothers influence. She has turned all 3 of my sisters against him since their divorce 7 years ago. He has tried to maintain a relationship with them but with no success. They blame him. My father is very hurt that he wasn't invited to the wedding. He wants to attend the ceremony at the church ( standing quietly in the back) and then leave immediately after. Is this acceptable? Secondly, I have been divorced for 5 years. My ex husband and I get along well...however, he has been invited to the wedding, but my boyfriend of 6 months has not. I do not wish to be my ex's "date." I recently emailed my sister asking her if my boyfriend could be my escort at the wedding. (I am not in the wedding party.) I know this was not proper for me to do, but I don't think she realized I had been dating someone when she made out the invitations. Anyway, She gave me some B.S. excuse about not being able to add guests even though I know from our mother that several guests cancelled. Personally, I'm 99% sure she said "No" because my mother and ex-husband told her not to invite him. I'm really upset that my family is more concerned with my ex-husbands feelings than mine. ( He doesn't even like my sister and doesn't want to go!) I really do not want to attend the wedding...except I KNOW that it will cause problems if I don't. If I do go, I feel like I am once again giving in to them instead of standing up for what I feel is right. I'm damned if I do...and I'm damed if I don't! Would it be appropriate to attend the ceremony with my boyfriend and not attend the reception since numbers was the issue? HELP!What should I do???
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
May 9, 2007, 10:24 AM
Post #2 of 2
(591 views)
Re: [sholmes] Wedding 2 weeks away our father is not invited to sisters wedding but my ex-husband is!
[In reply to]
Dear Sholmes,
I'm sorry, but this isn't about you. This is your sister's wedding and she can invite anyone she wishes to invite. If she didn't invite her father, it would be extremely rude for him to attend. The same goes for 'inviting' your own guest. Yes, if he is your boyfriend, he should have been invited. But, he wasn't. And, you don't have to sit with your ex. He should be sitting with the other guests and you with family.
So, you have the choice of attending or no. But, it isn't your choice to alter your sister's guest list.
Wedding 2 weeks away our father is not invited to sisters wedding but my ex-husband is!
