I am just wondering after reading many of the posts about close wedding dates on how to handle the situation...
My fiance and I just got engaged officially this last weekend, however, we have been talking about getting married for 1+ year. The date that we picked was the due date for our twins (early August) who were delivered early into heaven in April. I literally woke up one night and thought about that day in August as a way to remember our twins in heaven, but to also make the day more happy then sad.
My fiance has a half sister who got engaged late fall/early winter this past year also. They have picked a date in mid to late October. She was happy that we are getting married, however she is bummed because hers was to be the first wedding for that immediate family.
I am divorced and understand her feelings, however, we are planning a wedding that is outside and not formal at all. I am pretty sure that she is planning the whole huge wedding and reception to follow. I know that this is my second wedding, but the first for my fiance. There is also a 13 year gap between myself and the sister in law to be. My fiance and I knew that we were going to be engaged this year, 2008, and were going to try to get married also, since we are older and ready to get on with things. My fiance and I do not want to wait another year to get married. We want to get married and start a new life together and would like to have children soon also. There really isn't any other day that I would choose to have our wedding on either. If we chose our first date for instance, it would be only a month before the other wedding.
Is there a good way to approach this and try to explain the reasoning to her that I do not want her thunder and do not want the big huge party that will probably be her wedding. We want something simple and elegant, outside with few formal things included. We have considered a BBQ for a reception instead of a formal sit down dinner for instance. My thoughts are to have the people who really support us as a couple attend the wedding compared to my first wedding where everyone and all their relatives needed to be invited by the parents. She can have all that fun of inviting those types of people.
She does seem to not be asking for us to change our wedding date yet, however, I am not sure that it will remain this way.
Any suggestions??
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Re: [amazon73] Wedding Dates closer, new circumstances
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Dear Amazon,
Your date could only be eight weeks before hers. So if you are inviting any of the same people who would have to travel, it could be a burden. But, if this is truly small, informal, and doesn't involve people who would have to travel or spend much on the both of you, it should be fine.
It really doesn't matter who wanted to be engaged first. They did and set a date first. So, this is the most important issue here.
Wedding Dates closer, new circumstances
