I really need some advice. We are having a small wedding only 80 guests invited. Our parents helped out with the costs, and now the mother of the groom is very hurt by who we invited. I picked my half of the guest list without any input from my family (they are all pretty laid back about the whole thing). He picked his half and only invited 2 of the people from his mom’s side of the family. His mother is an only child, but his dad has 5 brothers and sisters, so he invited mostly his dad's side. He is a lot closer to his dad’s side too. She is really hurt that we didn't invite her 3 cousins. She made a comment that I should have called and asked her who she wanted invited; however, I feel as though it should have been my fiancé’s responsibility. I guess I trusted who he thought we should invite. Either way the invitations are already out and the venue will not fit any more people. I'm feeling really horrible about the whole thing. I really thought that since she had never mentioned anything that she really wasn't concerned with who we invited. I thought since it is a small wedding they were just leaving the guest list up to us. Were we totally wrong by the way we handled the guest list?
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The two of you are planning the wedding, and considered the hosts, even if the parents are helping out with the cost. The host decides the guest list. The wedding guest list is typically compromised of those closest to the couple. So, you did the right thing allowing your groom to choose. Ask him to speak to his mother, letting her know that he did his best to select those closest to him with the number of guests he could accommodate. Hopefully she will come around. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. And, when he speaks to his mother, perhaps she will realize that he is a grown boy and makes his own decisions, that you didn't do it for him.
Who makes the wedding guest list
