Short story: Dad and Mom had three kids. They divorced. Dad remarried lady that had a son and Dad legally adopted boy (took family name, etc). I was raised in my Mom’s house as was my older brother and sister. Dad and his wife raised new wife's son. Fast forward 30 years. Just got back from the wedding of the youngest. I was not asked to be in family portraits taken before hand and found this out after viewing pix online. I questioned my Step Brother, my Dad, and Step Mom; my Stepbrother graciously admitted fault and apologized profusely.
However my father became oddly defensive and said:
In defense of (groom), I would say that both you and (sister) may have felt put out unnecessarily, because (groom) is NOT the sort of person to have deliberately omitted including you in what took place. I also would like to remind you that the emphasis, the key word, in the ceremony was CASUAL. There was no marching in, etc., etc., and if it was an oversight, it was NOT a slight.
If you and (sister) feel slighted, I guess we should check with (Groom’s Aunt and Uncle), then, because they were not asked to be in the FEW (and I emphasize that word) photos that were taken up stairs which included the grandmothers and the immediate parents. Once again, as I pointed out, no other family members in the groom’s family except for the groom’s grandmother and the bride were in those few photos upstairs.
So the question is should I (and sister) been included in these family portraits? Would we be considered immediate family? I am terribly lost here!
Thanks very much for your insight!
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Feb 14, 2007, 4:26 PM
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Re: [DW] Who should be included in wedding photos?
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Dear DW,
This really doesn't do you any good one way or the other. If you find out that typically you would be in the pictures, then you would feel badly, but vindicated. If you find out that typically siblings are not, then you will feel badly that you confronted your stepbrother. So...
These pictures can include anyone the couple wishes to be included. However, many times the pictures will only include the couple, the attendants, and the parents. Grandparents are often included, but many times not. Siblings are not always included unless they are also attendants.
Who should be included in wedding photos?
