Our 20 year old daughter is getting married in a year and a half to a 28 year old young man. We feel that, because our daughter had moved in with her boyfriend, the tradition is no longer valid. My husband has been trying to establish his own company and we have not had very much income from the practice. We feel that we can only help our daughter by giving her $5,000 to help with her wedding expenses. Here is the dilemma. Her fiance's mom wants everybody on her side to be able to attend the wedding but they are not willing to help with the expenses. Our daughter wants to have a wedding in Hawaii and we are willing to pay for them to go there plus whatever it may cost, up to $5,000. Our daughter is fine with whatever type of wedding takes place and doesn't care too much about whether she will get any wedding gifts, but his mothers does.
I thank you for all the help/advice you could give us.
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Re: [winhto] Who should pay the wedding expenses
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Dear Winhto,
All of the old traditions of who pays for what is not relevant in our world today. You are not financially responsible for your daughter's wedding. If her fiance's mother wants something special for their wedding, she may offer to pay for it. That is her prerogative. But, it is the couple's choice to have the wedding they want and they are ultimately financially responsible for it.
Who should pay the wedding expenses
