My parents are divorced and both remarried. They've been divorced since I was 2 but do not get along. My mother and stepfather are paying for my wedding. Because of this my mother wants my stepdad to walk me down the aisle. However, I have a dad. I may only see him once a year because we live far apart, but he's still my dad!
I've tried to tell my mom that I would prefer not to offend my father, and have each set of parents walk down the aisle and I'll walk alone. My mother says its inappropriate. I don't want to offend either father by excluding them, and I dont want to upset my mom. One problem is that my dad cannot be at the rehersal so I can't plan anything too fancy, like having one walk half and the other walking me the other half.
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expertplanner
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Feb 10, 2007, 11:09 AM
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Doing what you propose is not inappropriate nor unheard of. The most diplomatic way of handling this normally would be to fall back on tradition and allow your biological father to walk you down the aisle. However, this decision is clouded by the fact that you have your mother and stepfather paying for the wedding. Therefore, in my opinion you have four possible solutions but whatever you choose will be a personal decision.
1. Walk alone 2. Allow your biological father walk you down the aisle 3. Permit both to escort you down the aisle, at the same time, to the altar 4. Have one walk you halfway, with the other taking you the remainder of the way to the altar
As for numer 4, yes you can do this regardless of whether you have your dad at the rehearsal or not. Think about it, you will have to tell him where to stand anyway because he won't be in attendance at the rehearsal. And, this logistic isn't so difficult that you couldn't communicate to him where to be over the phone or in an email. Just have a person designated on the day to help him be at the appointed place and time, in case he forgets, if you choose this option.
Cheers!~ Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
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Feb 10, 2007, 10:37 PM
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Who walks me down the aisle?
