My daughter had a very small wedding for immediate family only & no shower.Five of my friends whom I have known for 10-20 years went in on a gift that cost $125.00. The gift was dropped off 3 days after I attended one of these ladies daughters' wedding shower. I spent $80.00 on my gift & the same friends all gave separate gifts spent comperable. None of us were invited to her wedding.
I am hurt & angry & feel the need to ask my friends why ? I need some suggestions on how to approach them.
It wouldn't be polite to approach your friends and ask them why they didn't spend more of their money on your daughter because she decided to marry. If she had invited them to her wedding and they attended, they would have been obligated to give her a gift. But, they still could have given her a group gift.
A shower gift is supposed to be less expensive than a wedding gift and many are now opting for a gift-less shower. So, the fact that you decided to spend $80 on a shower gift really doesn't fit into this equation. It was very impolite to invite you to a shower and not the wedding though. This is not done.
It should never be about the money. And, we really shouldn't compare how much we spend as opposed to others. This is like equating how much a person loves us on how much they spend on us.
It was generous of your friends to give your daughter anything, especially since they were not invited to her wedding.
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