Dear Advisors, I have checked to see that indeed, it is appropriate to include significant others of guests as invitees per standard etiquette rules. I have just received an invitation that does not include "guest" or my partner's name, however. I suspect this is because we have just recently moved in together, and it is likely that the hosts aren't aware of this change in our status (though we've dated for three years already). How would you advise responding to this invitation? Should I ask my grown daughter, who is in the wedding party, to clarify this matter with the bride and her family? Should I send the reply with my partner's name included, explaining the new circumstances? Or should I discuss this with the parents of the bride directly? If the last choice is appropriate, what do you recommend as an approach? Thank you! Curious Guest
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WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
May 8, 2007, 5:01 PM
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Re: [curious guest] asking to include a significant other
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Dear Curious Guest,
It is never appropriate to invite a guest of your own, even if it is a significant other. Plus, it isn't polite to ask because it puts others in a difficult position. You could ask your daughter to 'slyly' find out if it was a mistake, perhaps by stating that you might not attend because you didn't want to attend without your significant other. But, other than that, you would have to accept that he/she wasn't invited.
asking to include a significant other
