bridesmaids want to bring a date...we are short on space
OUCH..two of my bridesmaids want to bring a date and are hurt that I have issued the invitation without extending that option. We are totally at maximum capacity and are very worried about space at the reception. These girls are NOT in significant relationships with anyone. We have been friends since grade 3 and I would think they'd understand but this is not going well. Not one single person was invited to bring a date. I have explained our situation and that it's not about money or anything other than physical space. They feel that 'a date' should have been counted on for them from the beginning. We are already 100 people over on our numbers and are praying the predictable 20% can't come..it's not a good feeling to invite people you hope can't come...but huge families and lots of close friends, well...I am at a loss as to how to make them understand and respect our situation...tho I've tried. They are hurt and disappointed and want us to allow them to bring dates ('random man' who won't know a soul?) Their feelings have made me so upset. It's not supposed to be like this. They felt close enough to me to approach me on the subject, but don't seem understanding or respectful of our decision. I can't 'grow the space'. It is a seated dinner dance in a room that is at it most uncomfortable maximum at 400. We are hoping to be under that number in the end and if so...I'd be happy to include a date for them, if it will make them feel better...but I can't promise that. How do I handle this one?? What can I say to them to protect our friendships and enlist their appreciation for our situation. HELP!
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Re: [lisateacher] bridesmaids want to bring a date...we are short on space
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Dear Lisa,
Your honestly is the only way I can see of dealing with this issue. You are not expected to offer an additional seat for attendants not in a relationship.
You could also suggest to them that they will be too busy to be a 'good date'.
bridesmaids want to bring a date...we are short on space
