I have read many posts on here that contradict what I read in one of my wedding books (my "bible" since I have never helped plan a wedding before!) I am an elementary school teacher getting married next summer in the same basic area as my school is located (so no travel issues, etc.) I had planned on inviting the 2 others teachers who are at my grade level (they are the people I am closest to at my school) and was also planning on inviting my Principal and Assistant Principal. Many posts have said that inviting these "higher-ups" is considered "apple polishing" but I feel like I have a very comfortable relationship with these 2 ladies. Although we do not socialize outside of school events, I really enjoy spending time with them at extracurricular events such as happy hours and our school softball team. Would it be appropriate to invite them?
In regard to the book I have, it said that it is acceptable/appropriate to not invite co-workers significant others as the co-workers can all socialize together/sit together at the wedding at reception. This is the complete opposite from what I have read on this book and I don't know what to do now!
I don't know what book that is, but that is a major no-no. It must be a planning book and not one that considers etiquette. All etiquette books I have read agree with all of the etiquette professionals I know that we always invite significant others to our weddings. And, we always invite our guests to the entire reception as well. Some planners may disagree, but some don't read etiquette books and are more focused on creating an event that flows well.
Please don't invite your administrative staff if not on a personal basis, because it really does seem like apple polishing to many. But, it is your choice. It isn't a major social faux pas to do so.
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