My daughter is planning to be married next year. Her father and I are divorced. He "says" that he is "unable" to contribute towards the wedding expenses. He has stipulated that he will not attend nor give our daughter away if my new husband attends the ceremony, reception, etc.
My daughter and my new husband have an excellent relationship. He has offeded very generously to contribute toward expenses. He has made no efforts to put stipulations on my ex-husband or anyone else attending.
After all, it's my daughter's day and my ex is her father. I think that out of love, that my ex should attend and participate in his only daughter's wedding. I don't hate the man, but I am displeased with the way he is behaving over his own daughter's wedding.
Because of this strife, my daughter says perhaps there should be no wedding at all, and that they should elope. In that way, her father's feelings wouldn't be hurt, and my husband would not feel excluded.
I know this is her wedding, but is that really fair for to give up such a day to appease someone whom is behaving selfishly? What if anything can I say or do?
Etiquette Now
WEDDING ETIQUETTE EXPERT
Feb 4, 2007, 3:13 PM
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Re: [Sage] divorced parents that don't get along
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Dear Sage,
It appears to me that he has a few problems and none of them have to do with anyone but himself. I believe that it would be in everyone's best interest to allow him to do as he pleases and turn a deaf ear. No one has to give in to him. It is your daughter's wedding and she makes up the rules here. Parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's weddings these days. So, parents don't plan or invite. She is the boss.
If he doesn't want to attend, then it is something he will have to live with. Unfortunately it may hurt your daughter, but it isn't her fault. This is something that hopefully you can help her believe, because it is true.
Hopefully by ignoring the blustering your ex will calm down.
divorced parents that don't get along
