My mom just passed away on Feb. 25, 2005. In January my fiance asked her if he could marry me and she gave him her blessing. We are planning a June 2006 wedding. I will be forty and this is my first and only marriage. The wedding will be in his backyard at the gazebo. We have transplanted some of my moms perinnals around the gazebo for the wedding. Is there a proper way for the ceremony to acknowlege my mom or do something in memory of her? I am her only daughter, and as a little girl I always wanted my mom to give me away. (my father passed away June 2004). She wasn't only my mother and mom, she was my best friend.
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I am so sorry you lost your best friend. Your wedding will be bittersweet; I know, I lost my mom before I married too. You're already on the right track with the use of you mom's favorite flowers. You don't have to be "given away" or escouted down the aisle. If you want to have this done perhaps an Uncle or special family friend could stand in.
Choose a special moment during your ceremony to honor your loved one. Appropriate times could be before or after your unity candle ceremony.
1. Place a photo of your mother on a nearby table.
2. Ask your officiant to speak a few words about your loved one, including special characteristics about them, and of course how much you wish they were there. Your officiant will be able to offer advice on wording this prayer and when to incorporate it into the ceremony.
3. Have the memorial candle placed on an altar, where you and your husband can light the candle, say a special prayer, or say a few words in remembrance.
4. Share a commemorative moment at your wedding ceremony by placing a flower in this memorial bud vase, printed with sentimental words honoring a loved one. Special keepsake vase can be placed on a mantle or bookcase after the wedding day.
5. Memorial Personalized Wedding Bible No memory is greater, no tribute finer than a personalized memorial Bible, whether presented on an altar in remembrance, or given to the couple as a spiritual reminder of loved ones lost. Inscribed "In loving memory", include name of memorialized as well as the couple's names and wedding date on the Bible.
6. A short mention of your mother in the wedding program, describing the candle, bud vase or any other ceremonies you incorporate, is appropriate and a lasting rememberance as well.
Best wishes...
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Lonna
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