in-laws insist on staying with us the week before the wedding
Since beginning our wedding plans both my fiance and his mother have made it clear that her financial situation is tight and she would be limited with what she could afford to contribute. As far as the wedding goes her financial contribution wasn't needed since my parents offered to pay for nearly everything. However, my fiance's mother has been complaining for the past couple of months that she can't afford to stay in a hotel(she lives out of town)while she is here. My fiance and I are still young and in college and we live in a pretty small 2 bedroom apt(with only one tiny bathroom!!). To make matters worse his aunt wants to come out the same time as his mother and also stay with us. The only extra bed we have is a twin and no room to put a blow up mattress on the floor. After fighting with my fiance about whether or not it was a good idea for them to stay with us for the entire week before the wedding I gave in and said they could stay(because if i didn't apparently she might not have been able to afford to come out for the wedding at all) but with the two of them coming the only way we can fit them in our apt is if they sleep in our room, my fiance sleeps on the twin in the guest room and that leaves me without a bed for the entire week. I'm not thrilled about it but I'm sure i'll be able to find a friends couch to sleep on during that time but after giving up my bed to them I find out that they are offended that I don't feel comfortable enough with them staying in my apt to also stay there. I feel like I can't win! I'm not really comfortable with them staying here in part because i've only met them once, during a weekend my fiance and I went to visit almost a year ago. I know that I'm going to be feeling the last minute pressures and stresses of the wedding that week and I honestly don't want the added responsibility of entertaining them and in turn not getting a chance to relax and unwind. At this point i'm at a loss at how I can prevent causing any offense my fiance's family while still maintaining my own comfort level. Any advice? Thank you!
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Re: in-laws insist on staying with my fiance and I the week before the wedding
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Dear Inlawsblues,
It is your fiance's duty to stand up for you and to inform them of your sacrifice. This is a major sacrifice, especially for you to give up your home the week before your wedding. Take yourself out of the equation and ask your fiance to discuss this with his mother. They all should be thanking you.
in-laws insist on staying with us the week before the wedding
