Hi, i am the bride and my parents are paying for the ENTIRE wedding. However, i am close with my fh parents. My parents are helping me throw a huge wedding/reception. I want a really big party, including alcohol and NO children. My future inlaws threw a "tantrum" at me the other day when i mentioned the word alochol. His dad tried to lecture me about how (sarcastically saying.. ) "great it would be to start a marriage off drunk!" (which is ironic is that my parents just celebrated 30yrs of marriage..and he was divorced 6yrs ago) with my parents paying, and having a stronger marriage. Why are they putting pressure on me about the wedding(including the no kids part.. they say, "well if you want everyone to not come because you don't invite their kids then you are not going to have many people.." but we are looking at a 300person guest list and i have run the idea by a lot of people and it seems to only be that family that has a problem with the no-kid thing. How do I get them off my back when they aren't even helping. It is putting unneccessary pressure on me!
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Jun 5, 2007, 2:49 PM
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Re: [tommysbride] in-laws upset about reception
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Dear Tommysbride,
Where is your fiance in all of this?? He should be informing his parents of your plans. You really shouldn't have to be in the middle.
This is your wedding, so you may invite whomever you wish. Not inviting children is very common these days, especially with alcohol in the mix. And, including alcohol is expected during certain times of the day.
It may be best to relay all of this to your fiance and ask him to speak to his parents.
And... since parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's weddings, it is also best to thank your parents on a daily basis. It was very generous of them to pay for the entire wedding/reception.
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